Adopters are receiving stolen goods without knowing in many many cases. Adoption should not be allowed full stop without the consent of all family members and revoked where children have been taken without a trial.
You say that there are adoptees who are abused by their adoptive families, and I agree that that is very true. It happens more often than we probably know. But there are also biological children who are abused. I’m so sorry if you were/are an abused adoptee. I can’t imagine the pain involved in that. But I don’t believe you were abused because you were adopted. I think you got stuck with really shitty parents, and that’s the agency’s fault, not yours.
What does that mean? if the parents didn’t want the kid then no they couldn’t have remained there.
Are you talking about people that are forced to give up their children? I’m not familiar with this as common practice, if it is that needs to be changed.
You’ll have issues regardless of where you’re raised or with who. Not knowing your heritage could be rough, but even in biological families lack of such knowledge is common. Everyone has issues that are brought on by things beyond their control.
Your videos come across as hateful to your adoptive parents. If you love your adoptive mother so much why do you hate adoption so much? There is always going to be the feeling of abandonment, of loss of fear. Whether you’re adopted or not. I understand that you need to feel these things, You need to come to grips and figure out your life, But your videos are so negative to adoptive parents as a whole, Not just abusive ones. I am sorry if You’ve been abused, But It doesn’t make adoption wrong.
That’s an unrelated argument. In the case where it’s a choice between foster care or an orphanage versus adoption, that’s a separated issue.
The main problem is when the child could have remained with their parent/s, but didn’t. Then the child has the lifelong pain inherent in adoption, as well as the lifelong pain of whatever might occur while they are in their adoptive home.
We all pretend that adoptees are never abused, but there are a fair number of adoptees that can put the lie to that.
Even when a child lives with his/her natural parents all may not be good. I was abused by my dad from age 6 until I became an adult. I wouldn’t have been any worse off if I had been adopted, and maybe even better off.
Those who don’t want their information, that’s fine for them. But those who do want their information have a basic human right to access to it.
The child has no rights at the time of surrender, and thus their rights as a human and as an adult must be fought for by those of us who are adults and are able to fight for those rights.
Secrecy against the will of the adult adoptee is inhumane and only in the interest of the adoptive parents. Never in the interest of the adoptee, who is a person too
The point I’m making, is that it’s good that those few of us who are bold and brave are speaking up about the negatives with regards to adoption. Anyone who thinks that anything, including adoption, is all good, all the time, is lying to themselves and others as well.
There are coercive practices towards mothers in adoption, and towards adoptees, too. The fact that we can’t get our original information, which contains our heritage and is our right, is literally a human rights violation.
Unfortunately, it’s a difficult thing for adoptees. I am actually an adoptee, myself. We’re really not allowed to feel what we really feel. We’re supposed to be happy about it, and if we’re not happy about every single part of it, we’re bad people. Because the myth is that adoption is a perfect solution. That it’s good, and has no possible downsides.
This myth prevents both mothers who’ve lost their children through coercive practices, and adoptees, from getting the help they deserve.
I buried my adoptive mum 2 months ago. She was my mum, the only one i had ever known til 3 years ago. I love her with all my heart and miss her more than i ever thought possible to miss a person. Wanting to know every peice of my own personal history never meant not loving the family that raised me. what should i feel guilty for wanting to know who and where i came from?! And incase you didnt get it. . I AM an adoptee so I think i have as much right as you to air my opinions and feelings.
If you read my blogs or visited my web sites you would know. . I have never been unloved and I am not an unhappy person. Im angry that adoption laws made it possible for my birth records to be altered and replaced meaning i had a 22 yr search to find who and where i came from. If you dont consider yourself adopted what has brought you to an adoption video. Non adoptees and non adopters wouldnt think of looking for adoption videos. just my opinion.
Hey amalia please dont ever feel you are alone. I know the hurt can be hard to talk about sometimes but talking to other adoptees helps. It doesnt matter if an adoptee has had a brill adoption or a crap one I think adoptees together proper know how to have ‘guilt’ free heart to hearts! If ever you need to chat message me and I will send you my IM and email addy. Take care and dont feel alone. tina x
Hi, your right some people should NOT be parents but that ’sperm’ and ‘egg’ is part of the baby. Regardless of who raises the child the child should not have it’s original birth records altered and replaced. I am not against ‘adoption’ only the laws that still dont do enough to ensure ‘in the best interest of the child’ means exactly that. thanks for taking the time to comment :}
birth records make it far easier to be less open and makes it emotionally harder for adoptees (I know not all) to ask questions. Every child in the UK has to be registered within a certain time after their birth, its (my feelings) like your identity confirmation that you exsist. Adoped children have that confirmation removed from record and replaced with a new identity and new records. I dont think anyone should alter and replace another persons birth records if that makes sense. wishing u wellx
Hiya 1963chia I’m glad your little boy has such loving and understanding parents. I am not against adoption I am against the adoption laws that allow birth records to be altered and childrens true biological history to be re written. When a child has honest loving parents like yourselves history and biology holds no secrets making it possible for true feelings to be shared and any hurt or confusions to be faced together. adoptions still take place that are not so open and altered continued
I adopted a baby boy who was abandoned at birth. I can see where your hurt comes from. However, just to let you know that we truly love our son. He’s our world and both my husband and I will try to protect him from all that is hurtful and bitter. I intend to let him know that he’s not my birth son but before that, I know when I tell him, he will know that he’s no lesser love than any other child.
Do you wish you had never met your Adoptive Parents? If you do, then you are in the minority. . . . . . . sorry if they gave you a horrible life. I don’t understand why people adopt a child when they are not planning on loving them Shame on them.
Adoption IS wonderful! Blood is thicker then water but love is thicker then blood!
I’m sorry. . . . . . . some people should NOT be Parents! They shoould just be considered simply as the “Sperm” and the “Egg”. When the baby comes, he/she should be handed to “REAL” Parents who are willing to love and support him/her. So MANY children’s lives could have been changed for the better if they had been adopted. . . . . . . . . . BUT I love the dolls in your video! I have a few Ashton-Drake “Babies” myself
hi, my name is amalia. i was adopted when i was really young. your videos have been there for me when i felt alone, at night and needed smb there that could understand what i was going through. adoption and the thought of being abandoned are terrible, however i believe that sometimes adoption is not necessarily a bad thing, when everything is out in the open. a lot of children are given a second chance through adoption, like kids saved from filthy orphanages and a life of not belonging anywhere.
Adopters are receiving stolen goods without knowing in many many cases. Adoption should not be allowed full stop without the consent of all family members and revoked where children have been taken without a trial.
Children are being stolen from parents and families that love and want them and this is evil and wicked.
Nature decides who can give birth and this is for good reason, blood is thicker than water is most cases.
Adoption should be never be turned into Forced Adoption and only in voluntary cases should children be placed outside of their natural families.
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‘child stealing by the state’ Brian Gerrish common purpose
the UK wants to keep this secret , we dont
You say that there are adoptees who are abused by their adoptive families, and I agree that that is very true. It happens more often than we probably know. But there are also biological children who are abused. I’m so sorry if you were/are an abused adoptee. I can’t imagine the pain involved in that. But I don’t believe you were abused because you were adopted. I think you got stuck with really shitty parents, and that’s the agency’s fault, not yours.
What does that mean? if the parents didn’t want the kid then no they couldn’t have remained there.
Are you talking about people that are forced to give up their children? I’m not familiar with this as common practice, if it is that needs to be changed.
You’ll have issues regardless of where you’re raised or with who. Not knowing your heritage could be rough, but even in biological families lack of such knowledge is common. Everyone has issues that are brought on by things beyond their control.
Your videos come across as hateful to your adoptive parents. If you love your adoptive mother so much why do you hate adoption so much? There is always going to be the feeling of abandonment, of loss of fear. Whether you’re adopted or not. I understand that you need to feel these things, You need to come to grips and figure out your life, But your videos are so negative to adoptive parents as a whole, Not just abusive ones. I am sorry if You’ve been abused, But It doesn’t make adoption wrong.
That’s an unrelated argument. In the case where it’s a choice between foster care or an orphanage versus adoption, that’s a separated issue.
The main problem is when the child could have remained with their parent/s, but didn’t. Then the child has the lifelong pain inherent in adoption, as well as the lifelong pain of whatever might occur while they are in their adoptive home.
We all pretend that adoptees are never abused, but there are a fair number of adoptees that can put the lie to that.
You MIGHT have been better off. You MIGHT have been even worse off.
Shocking as it is to most people, adopted children are abused sometimes, also. Adopters get divorced at the same rate as other people, too.
So you MIGHT not have been abused, but you DEFINITELY would have been abandoned. You MIGHT have been abandoned, and then abused on top of it.
Dreaming of adoption as the end all, cure all of abuse is foolish and pretends that adoptees are never abused. That’s a lie.
Even when a child lives with his/her natural parents all may not be good. I was abused by my dad from age 6 until I became an adult. I wouldn’t have been any worse off if I had been adopted, and maybe even better off.
What is better for the child. . . to grow up in foster care or a children’s home, where there is little to no love? Children need love.
AmRisArt thanks you said that much better than my efforts.
Those who don’t want their information, that’s fine for them. But those who do want their information have a basic human right to access to it.
The child has no rights at the time of surrender, and thus their rights as a human and as an adult must be fought for by those of us who are adults and are able to fight for those rights.
Secrecy against the will of the adult adoptee is inhumane and only in the interest of the adoptive parents. Never in the interest of the adoptee, who is a person too
The point I’m making, is that it’s good that those few of us who are bold and brave are speaking up about the negatives with regards to adoption. Anyone who thinks that anything, including adoption, is all good, all the time, is lying to themselves and others as well.
There are coercive practices towards mothers in adoption, and towards adoptees, too. The fact that we can’t get our original information, which contains our heritage and is our right, is literally a human rights violation.
Unfortunately, it’s a difficult thing for adoptees. I am actually an adoptee, myself. We’re really not allowed to feel what we really feel. We’re supposed to be happy about it, and if we’re not happy about every single part of it, we’re bad people. Because the myth is that adoption is a perfect solution. That it’s good, and has no possible downsides.
This myth prevents both mothers who’ve lost their children through coercive practices, and adoptees, from getting the help they deserve.
I buried my adoptive mum 2 months ago. She was my mum, the only one i had ever known til 3 years ago. I love her with all my heart and miss her more than i ever thought possible to miss a person. Wanting to know every peice of my own personal history never meant not loving the family that raised me. what should i feel guilty for wanting to know who and where i came from?! And incase you didnt get it. . I AM an adoptee so I think i have as much right as you to air my opinions and feelings.
Thank you AmRisArt for taking the time to comment on my video. tina x
If you read my blogs or visited my web sites you would know. . I have never been unloved and I am not an unhappy person. Im angry that adoption laws made it possible for my birth records to be altered and replaced meaning i had a 22 yr search to find who and where i came from. If you dont consider yourself adopted what has brought you to an adoption video. Non adoptees and non adopters wouldnt think of looking for adoption videos. just my opinion.
Hey amalia please dont ever feel you are alone. I know the hurt can be hard to talk about sometimes but talking to other adoptees helps. It doesnt matter if an adoptee has had a brill adoption or a crap one I think adoptees together proper know how to have ‘guilt’ free heart to hearts! If ever you need to chat message me and I will send you my IM and email addy. Take care and dont feel alone. tina x
Hi, your right some people should NOT be parents but that ’sperm’ and ‘egg’ is part of the baby. Regardless of who raises the child the child should not have it’s original birth records altered and replaced. I am not against ‘adoption’ only the laws that still dont do enough to ensure ‘in the best interest of the child’ means exactly that. thanks for taking the time to comment :}
birth records make it far easier to be less open and makes it emotionally harder for adoptees (I know not all) to ask questions. Every child in the UK has to be registered within a certain time after their birth, its (my feelings) like your identity confirmation that you exsist. Adoped children have that confirmation removed from record and replaced with a new identity and new records. I dont think anyone should alter and replace another persons birth records if that makes sense. wishing u wellx
Hiya 1963chia I’m glad your little boy has such loving and understanding parents. I am not against adoption I am against the adoption laws that allow birth records to be altered and childrens true biological history to be re written. When a child has honest loving parents like yourselves history and biology holds no secrets making it possible for true feelings to be shared and any hurt or confusions to be faced together. adoptions still take place that are not so open and altered continued
I adopted a baby boy who was abandoned at birth. I can see where your hurt comes from. However, just to let you know that we truly love our son. He’s our world and both my husband and I will try to protect him from all that is hurtful and bitter. I intend to let him know that he’s not my birth son but before that, I know when I tell him, he will know that he’s no lesser love than any other child.
Do you wish you had never met your Adoptive Parents? If you do, then you are in the minority. . . . . . . sorry if they gave you a horrible life. I don’t understand why people adopt a child when they are not planning on loving them
Shame on them.
Adoption IS wonderful! Blood is thicker then water but love is thicker then blood!
I’m sorry. . . . . . . some people should NOT be Parents! They shoould just be considered simply as the “Sperm” and the “Egg”. When the baby comes, he/she should be handed to “REAL” Parents who are willing to love and support him/her. So MANY children’s lives could have been changed for the better if they had been adopted. . . . . . . . . . BUT I love the dolls in your video! I have a few Ashton-Drake “Babies” myself
hi, my name is amalia. i was adopted when i was really young. your videos have been there for me when i felt alone, at night and needed smb there that could understand what i was going through. adoption and the thought of being abandoned are terrible, however i believe that sometimes adoption is not necessarily a bad thing, when everything is out in the open. a lot of children are given a second chance through adoption, like kids saved from filthy orphanages and a life of not belonging anywhere.